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Family, loss [Oct. 16th, 2014|12:41 pm]
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My father passed away last night. It wasn't at all unexpected: he'd been suffering from dementia for a long time and had declined very badly in the past year or so, and we placed him on hospice this August.

I don't know if his death still hasn't sunk in for me yet, or if it's that his illness was so long and protracted that I've already gotten a lot of my grieving over with, but I'm feeling mostly okay right now. As far as I can tell, the rest of the family is about the same--even my mother, who was very devoted to him and whose reaction we'd all been worrying about. I think it really helps that my brother, his gf, and my baby niece moved home recently; the baby has been a welcome distraction for all of us.

And because we knew this was coming, my three siblings who live far away were able to come see Dad before he died (two of them could take over a month off of work and are still here now, while my youngest sister had to go back for school but will return for the memorial). That's helped a bit, too, knowing that everyone had the chance to say goodbye to him.

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[User Picture]From: iibnf
2014-10-16 06:54 pm (UTC)

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was surrounded by loved ones, I hope he had an easy passing.

Edited at 2014-10-16 06:55 pm (UTC)
[User Picture]From: frausorge
2014-10-16 09:20 pm (UTC)

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending all best thoughts to you and your family. I hope you will still be able to hold him close in memory.
[User Picture]From: rheasilvia
2014-10-16 09:51 pm (UTC)

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I'm so sorry for your loss - it's good that you and your family are together, and that you're doing mostly okay.
[User Picture]From: callmesandy
2014-10-17 09:32 am (UTC)

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So sorry for your loss.
[User Picture]From: pashoshi
2014-10-17 12:51 pm (UTC)

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I'm sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts. I'm glad you can mostly be together for this.